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“A bend in the road is not the end of the road…Unless you fail to make the turn.”

The Problem with the Solution

Americans LOVE solutions. But are there problems we shouldn't try to solve? Lulu visits a town in Belgium with a completely different approach to dealing with mental illness.

This is water, Commencement Speech by David Foster Wallace

 

What Is Privilege? "Privilege is complex..."

 

Eating Disorder

Prof. Christopher G. Fairburn: Research on Transdiagnostic CBT-E on Eating Disorder
 

The five love languages 

 

Learn to love your ugly bits | Elyse Hughes | TEDxFremontEastWomen

Afflicted with psoriasis in her twenties, Elyse shares how she overcame her autoimmune disorder and lifelong self-defeating thoughts, inspiring her audience to embrace all of the parts of themselves.
 

Become who you really are | Andrea Pennington

Published on Sep 3, 2014

This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. Following a near death-like experience this popular physician and medical journalist realized that her past conditioning was causing her to live an inauthentic life that created depression and anxiety. She dug deep into her shadow to overcome low self-esteem, learn to love herself and transform her entire life. In this inspiring talk at TEDxIUM, Dr. Andrea Pennington shows how we can learn who we really are - or who we were meant to be - by examining our biology, our personality and temperament and ultimately discovering our unique 'Soulprint' to break free from social conditioning that creates self-loathing and self-rejection.

 

This is your brain on heroin

Published on Aug 26, 2014

Sanjay Gupta explains what happens to your brain on opiates, the key ingredient in heroin and other powerful narcotics.

 

Alcohol and your Brain

Published on Aug 26, 2010

An amazing 3D representation on the effect alcohol has on your body and brain. Find out more about the metabolism of alcohol and what is Blood Alcohol Concentration. 

 

Robin Williams on Alcohol

 

Beverly Whipple PHD Rutgers, Female sexuality 

Click on the link for her some more of her videos

http://bigthink.com/experts/beverlywhipple

 

The Secret of Becoming Mentally Strong | Amy Morin | TEDxOcala

 
Three words that will change your life | Dr. Mark Holder |
Positive Psychology
 
I-Statements vs You Statements | #GrowFriday
 

The power of introvertsSusan Cain

“Here’s where the bias comes in. Our most important institutions, our schools and our workplaces, they are designed mostly for extroverts and for extroverts’ need for lots of stimulation. And also we have this belief system right now that I call the new group think, which holds that all creativity and all productivity comes from a very oddly gregarious place.”

 
Dan Gilbert, author of "Stumbling on Happiness," challenges the idea that we’ll be miserable if we don’t get what we want. Our "psychological immune system" lets us feel truly happy even when things don’t go as planned.
 
The anatomy of melancholy -- Can depression be good for you? | Neel Burton | TEDxMaribor
Published on Mar 2, 2012

Dr Neel Burton is a psychiatrist, philosopher, and writer who lives and teaches in Oxford, England, where he also runs the Oxford Wine Academy and the Meaning of Madness Course. He is the recipient of the Society of Authors' Richard Asher Prize, the British Medical Association's Young

 

Climbing out of addiction and depression: Margo Talbot at TEDxCanmore

Published on Nov 15, 2013

Talk Overview

Current research suggests that addiction and depression are symptoms of emotional distress, not causes of it, forging the link between

 

No Sex Marriage – Masturbation, Loneliness, Cheating and Shame
Maureen McGrath

Love? Marriage? Sex? Can a married couple have all three? Perhaps it’s unrealistic since so many marriages end in divorce today. Why is that? One reason might be that a reported 20% of all marriages are sexless and that number is rising. Why have we lost the lust in our marriages? Is it technology, is it trust?
 

Guy Winch: Why we all need to practice emotional first aid

We'll go to the doctor when we feel flu-ish or a nagging pain. So why don’t we see a health professional when we feel emotional pain: guilt, loss, loneliness? Too many of us deal with common psychological-health issues on our own, says Guy Winch. But we don’t have to. He makes a compelling case to practice emotional hygiene — taking care of our emotions, our minds, with the same diligence we take care of our bodies.
 
Can Walking help my depression, anxiety, depression
 

Verna Myers on Diversity

Diversity advocate Vernā Myers looks closely at some of the subconscious attitudes we hold toward out-groups. She makes a plea to all people: Acknowledge your biases. Then move toward, not away from, the groups that make you uncomfortable. In a funny, impassioned, important talk, she shows us how.

 

The Critical Inner Voice

 

10 Common Warning Signs 

of a Mental Health Condition in Teens and Young Adults

 

Self-Harm /  The Skeletons in My Closet | Stephen Lewis |

Published on Apr 3, 2015

Dr. Lewis tells the story of his own life, which eventually brought him to researching Non-Suicidal Self-Injury (NSSI) professionally. This intense and personal story gives insight into the internal struggles of someone who has dealt with self-injury and gives hope to those who may be struggling with the battle themselves.

 

Depression: A Poem

 
We Need to Talk about Depression: Darryl Neher at TEDxBloomington
Published on May 4, 2013

Darryl Neher is an award-winning Senior Lecturer of Business Communication at the Indiana University Kelley School of Business, and is the current president of the Bloomington City Council. For more than a decade he hosted talk-radio shows on local radio stations, facilitating community dialogue on issues important to his listeners throughout south-central Indiana. In this powerful talk, Neher describes how important

 

Tony Porter: A call to men
Uploaded on Dec 10, 2010

http://www.ted.com At TEDWomen, Tony Porter makes a call to men everywhere: Don't "act like a man." Telling powerful stories from his own life, he shows how this mentality, drummed into so many men and boys, can lead men to disrespect, mistreat and abuse women and each other. His solution: Break free of the "man box."

 
Rethinking How We Understand and Treat Depression: Charles Raison at TEDxTucsonSalon
Published on May 16, 2013

Dr. Charles Raison "Coming to our Senses: Rethinkng How We Understand and Treat Depression". Dr. Raison is an Associate Professor at the University of Arizona Department of Psychiatry, in the College of Medicine. He is also the Barry and Janet Lang Associate Professor at the John and Doris Norton School

 

Violence against women—it's a men's issue: Jackson Katz

Published on Feb 11, 2013

Jackson Katz, Phd, is an anti-sexist activist and expert on violence, media and masculinities. An author, filmmaker, educator and social theorist, Katz has worked in gender violence prevention work with diverse groups of men and boys in sports culture and the military, and has pioneered work in critical media literacy.Katz is the creator and co-founder of the Mentors in Violence Prevention (MVP) program, which advocates the 'bystander approach' to sexual and domestic violence prevention. You've also seen him in the award winning documentary "MissRepresentation."

 

Be A Man: Joe Ehrmann

Published on Feb 20, 2013

Joe Ehrmann has been an educator, author, activist, pastor and coach for more than 25 years. He was a college All-American athlete who played professional football for 13 years. Among numerous awards, Joe has been named "The Most Important Coach in America" for his work to transform the culture of sports.

 

Consent! Would you like some Tea


 
Everything You Think You Know About Addiction Is Wrong 
Johann Hari
Published on Jul 9, 2015

What really causes addiction — to everything from cocaine to smart-phones? And how can we overcome it? Johann Hari has seen our current methods fail firsthand, as he has watched loved ones struggle to manage their addictions. He started to wonder why we treat addicts the way we do — and if there might be a better way. As he shares in this deeply personal talk, his questions took him around the world, and unearthed some surprising and hopeful ways of thinking about an age-old problem.

 

 
How I drank more to overcome alcoholism | Claudia Christian |
Published on May 31, 2016

A hugely successful actress who saw her personal life and career tested by addiction, Claudia shares her journey of overcoming alcoholism and offers fresh perspectives on alcohol use disorder treatments.


NPR: Fearless

What would happen if you could disappear fear? We'll hear about the striking (and rare) case of a woman with no fear. The second half of the show explores how the rest of us might "turn off" fear.

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NPR: The Secret History Of Thoughts

Co-hosts Alix Spiegel and Lulu Miller ask the question, "Are my thoughts related to my inner wishes, do they reveal who I really am?" The answer can have profound consequences for your life.

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NPR:  Fundamentalism to Faith: Memoirs of a Recovering Free Will Baptist.

JC Farris describes herself as “a child of Appalachia, having grown up in the hills and valleys of Southwest Virginia and East Tennessee.” She also says she is “one of God’s most irritating children” because she asks a lot of questions!  She is the author of Fundamentalism to Faith: Memoirs of a Recovering Free Will Baptist.  (Amazon)  She speaks candidly about agoraphobia, being gay, God, and a faith that reaches out to others on Religion For Life.

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Ted Talks: Brene Brown: The Power of Vulnerability

Brené Brown studies human connection — our ability to empathize, belong, love. In a poignant, funny talk, she shares a deep insight from her research, one that sent her on a personal quest to know herself as well as to understand humanity. 

http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability#t-1204647

 

Celeste Headlee: 10 ways to have a better conversation

When your job hinges on how well you talk to people, you learn a lot about how to have conversations — and that most of us don't converse very well. Celeste Headlee has worked as a radio host for decades, and she knows the ingredients of a great conversation: Honesty, brevity, clarity and a healthy amount of listening. In this insightful talk, she shares 10 useful rules for having better conversations. "Go out, talk to people, listen to people," she says. "And, most importantly, be prepared to be amazed."

 

How to stop screwing yourself over | Mel Robbins |


Mel Robbins is a married working mother of three, an ivy-educated criminal lawyer, and one of the top career and relationship experts in America. Widely respected for her grab-'em-by-the-collar advice and tough love, Robbins drills through the mental clutter that stands between people and what they want. Her approach is smart, effective and entertaining. Five days a week, Mel hosts her own syndicated radio show The Mel Robbins Show, discussing hot topics and giving advice to callers across America

 
Ted Talks: Kevin Breel: Confessions of a depressed comic
Kevin Breel didn't look like a depressed kid: team captain, at every party, funny and confident. But he tells the story of the night he realized that — to save his own life — he needed to say four simple words.
http://www.ted.com/talks/kevin_breel_confessions_of_a_depressed_comic?language=en
 

Ted Talks: Joshua Walters: Bipolar as a positive

At TED's Full Spectrum Auditions, comedian Joshua Walters, who's bipolar, walks the line between mental illness and mental "skillness." In this funny, thought-provoking talk, he asks: What's the right balance between medicating craziness away and riding the manic edge of creativity and drive?

http://www.ted.com/talks/joshua_walters_on_being_just_crazy_enough

 
Nick Vujicic: Overcoming Hopelessness
Nick talks about the importance of parenting in early childhood and it's significance in overcoming hopelessness. Willpower is a driving force for making our big dreams come true, but if we don't get a miracle in life, we can always be a miracle to someone else. Nick Vujicic was born in Australia to a Serbian immigrant family, with a rare disorder characterized by the absence of all four limbs. Most of his childhood he struggled with depression, and after a suicide attempt he decided to concentrate on what he did have instead on what he didn't. He realized that his life story inspires many people. Added Oct 17, 2012
 

"Is it okay if I totally trash your office?" It's a question Elyn Saks once asked her doctor, and it wasn't a joke. A legal scholar, in 2007 Saks came forward with her own story of schizophrenia, controlled by drugs and therapy but ever-present. In this powerful talk, she asks us to see people with mental illness clearly, honestly and compassionately.
http://www.ted.com/talks/elyn_saks_seeing_mental_illness

http://www.ted.com/playlists/9/all_kinds_of_minds

 

“Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that, and living alone won't either, for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are here to be swallowed up. And when it happens that you are broken, or betrayed, or left, or hurt, or death brushes near, let yourself sit by an apple tree and listen to the apples falling all around you in heaps, wasting their sweetness. Tell yourself you tasted as many as you could.”
Louise Erdrich, The Painted Drum LP

 

What is Trauma:

Watch this video to find out how Trauma and Stress impact the brain to create chronic conditions, like: chronic pain, depression, anxiety, post traumatic stress, and fibromyalgia. You will understand how the brain / body connection works and why nothing you've tried has helped so far. If you or a loved one suffer from chronic health problems no matter what you've tried, then you can't 

 

What is Depression:

Major depressive disorder is a mental illness with symptoms that affect a person's thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Depression is widespread, but poorly understood. This video provides an overview of what depression actually is including discussion of symptoms, causes, and treatment.

 

Ellen Pence is the co-founder of the Domestic Abuse Intervention Project in Duluth, MN. Pence and a group of other social activists initiated DAIP in the early 1980s. They went on to pioneer key domestic violence innovations, including the power and control wheel, mandatory arrest, batterer intervention programs and the coordinated community response to domestic abuse. Thirty years later, Pence remains committed to the original cause -- most recently, she spearheaded a major new domestic violence initiative in St. Paul, MN. Pence is one of the main characters in the upcoming documentary, "Power and Control: Domestic Violence in America." 

 
Dreams what are they?
NOVA follows a number of scientists, including Matthew Wilson of MIT, who is literally “eavesdropping” on the dreams of rats, and other investigators who are systematically analyzing the content of thousands of human dreams. From people who violently act out their dreams to those who can’t stop their nightmares, from sleepwalking cats to the rare instances of individuals who don’t seem to ever dream, each fascinating case study contains a vital clue to the age-old question: What Are Dreams?
 

Comfortable: 50 People 1 Question

 
Deep Breathing Exercise

Deep breathing is a simple exercise that can be used to manage stress and anxiety. Use this video to help teach and then practice how to use deep breathing. It may be valuable to discuss specific situations that the skill would be helpful for your client. Additionally, plan a specific time for your client to practice deep breathing each day so they'll have experience when they really need it.

 
Progressive Muscle Relaxation Exercise

Progressive muscle relaxation is a technique that teaches you to identify where tension is being held in your body so it can be released. This video will walk you through the exercise. It's recommended that the technique is practiced regularly to help you become more aware of the tension in your body even when you are not actively practicing the exercise.

 
What is CBT?

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a type of psychotherapy based upon the theory that our thoughts affect how we think and feel. This video gives an overview of CBT including the theoretical underpinning, and how it is actually applied in session. CBT has been found to be effective in the treatment of many disorders such as depression, anxiety, addictions, phobias, and more.

 

Website links

“The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.”
Albert Einstein

Do Yoga with me

https://www.doyogawithme.com/

Yoga online for all levels. Hundreds of streaming videos absolutely free of charge. Welcome



Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

http://www.daughtersofnarcissisticmothers.com/


The Debt

When terrible, abusive parents come crawling back, what do their grown children owe them?
http://www.slate.com/articles/life/family/2013/02/abusive_parents_what_do_grown_children_owe_the_mothers_and_fathers_who_made.html

http://www.psychalive.org/

http://www.havoca.org/

AA  Alcoholics Anonymous In the High Country

http://www.booneaa.org/pdf/booneMeetings.pdf

Alcoholics Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength and hope with each other, so that they may solve their common problem with alcohol, and help others to recover from the effects of alcohol. If you believe you may have a problem with alcohol, you are invited to attend our meetings.

http://www.booneaa.org/


Al-Anon 

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/


National Center on Domestic and Sexual Violence

http://www.ncdsv.org/publications_wheel.html

Power and Control Wheel


RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network)

https://rainn.org/


OASIS (Opposing Abuse with Service, Information and Shelter) 225 Birch St., Suite 4, Boone NC 28607

http://oasisinc.org/


Hospitality House of Boone.
338 Brook Hollow Road, Boone NC 28607 828.264.1237

http://hospitalityhouseofboone.org/index.php?id=1


Appalachian Regional Healthcare System Inpatient-behavioral-health

https://apprhs.org/services/behavioral-health/inpatient-behavioral-health


7 Tips For Navigating The Dining Hall

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/08/20/dining-hall-nutrition_n_3757333.html


NAMI National Alliance on Mental Illness

http://www.nami.org


HealthyPlace.com

http://www.healthyplace.com/psychological-tests/


Becoming Mininimalist

http://www.becomingminimalist.com/becoming-minimalist-start-here/


Authentic Happiness

A University of Pennsylvania website developed by the Positive Psychology Center

https://www.authentichappiness.sas.upenn.edu/


Psychcentral.com Psychological Tests and quizzes

http://psychcentral.com/quizzes/


California Psychological Inventory

http://www.nicheconsulting.co.nz/cpi.htm


Therapy worksheets, tools, and handouts for mental health counselors

http://www.therapistaid.com/


This  free test is based on Carl Jung’s and Isabel Briggs Myers’ typological approach to personality

http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp#top


TransitionWorks, a site dedicated to helping you and those around you to better deal with changes, both large and small, that impact your life

http://www.transitionguide.com/index.php


Workforcwe50 : There is a difference between a job change and a career transition

http://www.workforcwe50.com/Content/Articles/KH1-Process-of-Career-Transition.cfm


Helping People Find Therapists & Advocating for Ethical Therapy

http://www.goodtherapy.org/


The Job of a Lifetime, No Longer Lasts a Lifetime

http://www.social-hire.com/career--interview-advice/2722/the-job-of-a-lifetime-no-longer-lasts-a-lifetime